This is truly terrible.

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Our hearts go out to her. After filing for divorce from Johnny Depp, actress Amber Heard has officially obtained a restraining order from her soon-to-be ex-husband.

Along with the restraining order, Amber also filed a testimony detailing the physical assault she suffered during her marriage to Johnny.

She wrote in her declaration,

During the entirety of our relationship, Johnny has been verbally and physically abusive to me. I endured excessive emotional, verbal and physical abuse from Johnny, which has included angry, hostile, humiliating and threatening assaults to me whenever I questioned his authority or disagreed with him. I live in fear that Johnny will return to (our house) unannounced to terrorize me, physically and emotionally.”

This is truly horrendous. She also went into detail and recounted a few specific incidents in which she was physically attacked.

We can’t imagine what she must be going through at this moment and we hope when she’s ready to talk, she can become a role models for those who have also suffered from domestic abuse.

the internet reacts

The way the internet reacted was despicable.

Headlines from around the web included:

  • Johnny Depp: BLACKMAILED By Amber Heard?!
  • Johnny Depp ‘to give tell-all TV interview to prove he’s not a monster after abuse allegations’
  • ‘Amber’s a better actress than I thought’
  • Johnny Depp was manipulated, set up by Amber Heard
  • Lily-Rose Depp Defends ‘Loving’ Father Johnny Depp

Yes, that’s right: after coming forward as a survivor of domestic abuse, Amber Heard is being painted as a liar and a villain. And this is exactly why more victims don’t come forward in the first place.

According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, only 34% of folks injured through domestic violence are medically treated and a 2012 article by Mic. stated that 70% of domestic violence cases go unreported.

But it’s not just domestic abuse that goes unnoticed. Women are also often afraid to report sexual harassment for fear of retribution. HBO’s Confirmation may have depicted events that occurred 30 years ago, but the themes still ring true for 2016.

facing the stigma

The actress later teamed up with the photographer collective #GirlGaze to do a PSA on the realities of domestic abuse and how difficult it can be to come forward.

She said,

“It happens to so many women. When it happens in your home behind closed doors with someone you love, it’s not as straightforward. If a stranger did this… it would be a no-brainer.”

Amber gets truly vulnerable in the video and admits that one of the most difficult part can be seeing yourself as a victim, especially when you’re used to thinking you’re strong.

“I guess there was a lot of shame attached to that—that label of victim.”

She added,

“You don’t have to do it alone. You’re not alone. And also, we can change this. Violence against women is not limited to actual physical violence.”

In her own situation, Amber finally found the courage to seek a restraining order and used photographic evidence when she took Johnny to court.

If you or anyone you know is suffering from domestic abuse, you can seek help from the National Domestic Violence Hotline at

Lena Finkel is the Editor and Founder of Femestella. Prior to starting Femestella, she worked at People, InStyle, and Tiger Beat. Her favorite Housewife is Bethenny Frankel (by far!), but when she’s not watching RHONY, you can probably find her hanging with her kitty Tom or tweeting at Sen. Chuck Schumer.

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