Spinster. Old maid. Crazy cat lady; Society is not kind to single women.
Not to mention the double standard. Single men are bachelors while single ladies are dubbed losers. But that’s bullshit because being single is awesome!
Singledom is empowering. It gives you the freedom to do what you like when you like without having to check in with another human. And I’m not the only one who thinks so. Taylor Swift, Mindy Kaling, Yara Shahidi and more are all a fan of going stag.
But if you’re heading into the holiday season worried about facing your family and those inevitable questions from your grandma about when you’re gonna find a fella, just read these quotes from our favorite ladies and count your lucky stars that you’re sans a plus-one.
“My general outlook is if I don’t have time to take a bath on a regular basis, then I don’t have time for another human. I love being busy, and I enjoy where I am at right now.”
“I recommend to all my friends that they be alone for a while. When you’re in love or dating someone, you filter your life decisions through their eyes. When you spend a few years being who you are, completely unbiased, you can figure out what you actually want.”
“I’m not alone! I’m with myself. And myself is fabulous.”
“Guys need attention. They need that nourishment, that little stroke of the ego that gets them by every now and then. I’ll give it to my family, I’ll give it to my work – but I will not give it to a man right now.”
“My work is so rewarding and I’m so self-centered about it that I’m kind of excited about not having to go home and ask someone about their day.”
“I’m not a lonely person. I never feel lonely … It’s not a sad thing to be alone. I think what I was trying to get across was that I don’t feel a lack of something not being in a relationship. I don’t feel like there is an emotional void to be filled.”
“I was waiting for Prince Charming. Everybody I met was going to be the guy I was going to spend my life with. And then you realize, ‘I’m strong, I’m my own keeper, my own savior.'”
“When I’m alone, I’m alone. I don’t have anybody to call, and so I have to create meaning from myself. That’s why I don’t give a fuck because I can’t lose anything. What I have I make myself.”
“I think that’s a new freedom for women, especially. I don’t know that my mother would have been able to be 22 and secure in being alone. But my future doesn’t rely on having a partner.”
“We are becoming the men we wanted to marry.”
Lena Finkel is the Editor and Founder of Femestella. Prior to starting Femestella, she worked at People, InStyle, and Tiger Beat. Her favorite Housewife is Bethenny Frankel and when she’s not watching RHONY, you can probably find her obsessing over her tuxedo cat Tom or hoarding drugstore lipsticks.