Real Housewives of Dallas star Brandi Redmond has officially lost any chance she had at redemption.
In a season that started out with Brandi apologizing for her anti-Asian video and seemingly showing a genuine interest in doing better, things have quickly taken a turn for the worse.
In the last few episodes, Brandi has now decided that she is the victim in all of this.
First, Brandi blamed Tiffany for making her feel “uncomfortable.” She tried to make it seem like it was all Tiffany’s fault that Brandi was “afraid to be herself” around her. This was all despite the fact that Tiffany could not have been kinder to Brandi and was quick to accept her apology. (Also, why can’t Brandi “be herself” without being afraid to make racist comments?!)
Although Brandi later apologized to Tiffany (which Tiffany again accepted graciously, like the classy woman she is), things have since continued downhill.
In the most recent episode, Brandi attacked D’Andra for making a simple comment on the racist video to the press.
While doing an interview, D’Andra was asked whether season 5 of RHOD would address Brandi’s video and D’Andra merely said that, yes, it would.
But Brandi was upset that D’Andra responded instead of saying “no comment” and demanded an apology. She said it was D’Andra’s fault that the video was being talked about again and it was her fault that Brandi was receiving hate online. Yet again, Brandi played the victim with her white tears.
Essentially, Brandi would like the whole thing to go away. She wants everyone to forget about the video. She wants the video to disappear because she doesn’t want to take responsibility for her actions. She wants her one apology to be enough and now she wants everyone to move on.
But that’s not how things work. Brandi did something bad and now she has to deal with the consequences. And it’s nobody’s fault but her own. It’s not D’Andra’s fault that the video is being talked about and it’s not Tiffany’s fault that her being Asian makes Brandi uncomfortable.
Yes, it sucks to receive hate online. But Brandi needs to take accountability for her actions. And that means more than one apology. That means learning about anti-Asian racism in this country. It means teaching others about it. And it means becoming an anti-racist advocate.
Brandi had a real chance to change the narrative this season. She could have set an example for everyone who has a history of racist actions. But instead, she did the opposite. She showed us exactly what not to do: she got extremely defensive and she made it all about her.
But anti-Asian hate isn’t about you, Brandi! Asian-Americans are literally being physically attacked in the streets. Asian-American women are being gunned down at their place of work. This is not ok. None of this is ok. So get over yourself, Brandi. And start doing the work.
To learn more about what you can do to stop anti-Asian hate, head here.
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Lena Finkel is the Editor and Founder of Femestella. Prior to starting Femestella, she worked at People, InStyle, and Tiger Beat. Her favorite Housewife is Bethenny Frankel and when she’s not watching RHONY, you can probably find her obsessing over her tuxedo cat Tom or hoarding drugstore lipsticks.