This season on Real Housewives of Dallas, Brandi Redmond has been displaying all the symptoms of white fragility: defensiveness, discomfort, white tears, and victimhood.
Her latest display of white fragility occurred when D’Andra Simmons responded to a reporter’s question about Brandi’s racist video mocking slanted eyes.
Brandi immediately got defensive and took out her anger on D’Andra. She didn’t want anyone talking about the video and wanted the whole thing to just disappear.
“Brandi, I mean, she has got to get less triggered because this [the video] exists in the world. If she’s gonna get this mad every time someone brings it up, that’s gonna be a hard life to live.”
On top of that, Brandi really isn’t doing herself any favors by playing the victim. She accused Tiffany of making her uncomfortable and afraid to be herself when, in truth, it was Brandi who was making herself uncomfortable to be around an Asian woman.
While it’s most likely difficult for Brandi to confront her own racism and her implicit bias, it’s something that every single white person should be doing right now.
And it’s important to remember that, while it may be uncomfortable to reconcile your own unconscious bias, white people are NOT the victim here.
The victims of racism are the ones who suffer every day from microaggressions, explicit acts of racism, police brutality, and more horrifying experiences.
Throughout this entire process, we have to give credit to Tiffany and how incredibly understanding she’s been with both Brandi and the entire group. Brandi has essentially forced her to do an enormous amount of emotional labor. It’s no wonder this season has left her exhausted. I don’t blame Tiffany for potentially wanting to leave RHOD next season.
At this point, Brandi is most likely not returning to RHOD. Back in February, she posted on Instagram,
“I also want to thank you all for being a part of my journey these past few years. I have loved sharing my life with you but sometimes things come to an end.”
Most fans have taken this as an admission that she won’t be continuing her “journey” on RHOD but it’s unclear if the choice was made of her own volition.
On top of that, there are currently rumors swirling that RHOD might not even return for season six. This is based on a tweet by journalist Dave Quinn, who wrote,
“I can say without exaggeration that we’re going to see something at the #RHOD reunion this year we’ve never seen at a Housewives reunion before.”
This is obviously a pretty vague tweet and doesn’t necessarily mean the show is canceled. But we’ll just have to wait and see.
In the meantime, you can catch the Real Housewives of Dallas on Bravo, Tuesdays at 9 PM EST — at least while it’s still on the air.
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Lena Finkel is the Editor and Founder of Femestella. Prior to starting Femestella, she worked at People, InStyle, and Tiger Beat. Her favorite Housewife is Bethenny Frankel and when she’s not watching RHONY, you can probably find her obsessing over her tuxedo cat Tom or hoarding drugstore lipsticks.