The rumors are official true: Scott Disick and Sofia Richie are a thing. They’ve each taken to Instagram to showcase their new romance and confirm what we’ve all been suspecting since early September.
I have to say it, because nobody seems to be saying it: this is unbelievably disturbing. Scott is
You’re probably inclined to call me a prude at this point. It’s 2017 — why can’t a 34-year-old and 19-year-old date? Who cares? After all, there have certainly been other Hollywood romances with age gaps. Even Scott’s ex, Kourtney Kardashian is going younger. Her new boyfriend, Younes Bendjima, is only 24-years old while Kourtney is 38. It’s certainly a comparable age difference to Scott and Sofia’s.
But the problem is not the gap in their age (although that doesn’t help). The issue at hand is that there is a serious power discrepancy. Scott has all the power in this situation — he’s a cisgender, affluent white man and she’s a young, brown girl. Historically speaking he has the upper hand.
Even worse, their relationship is reinforcing misogynistic patterns of older white men exploiting young women of color as exotic playthings they can have whenever they want.
I’m not trying to imply that Sofia has no interest in Scott. I have no idea what her feelings for him entail. For all I know she’s madly in love with him.
But frankly, it doesn’t really matter. Their relationship is inherently unequal because society will reward Scott for being a cool bachelor who is banging the pretty young thing and will slut-shame Sofia whether or not they have a sexual relationship. In society’s eyes, she will always be inferior.
It’s not ok that gossip sites are enjoying the drama of their relationship. It’s not ok that Lionel Richie feels “scared to death” that his daughter is in the hands of a misogynist creep. Let’s stop rewarding this unseemly behavior and call it what it is.
Lena Finkel is the Editor and Founder of Femestella. Prior to starting Femestella, she worked at People, InStyle, and Tiger Beat. Her favorite Housewife is Bethenny Frankel and when she’s not watching RHONY, you can probably find her obsessing over her tuxedo cat Tom or hoarding drugstore lipsticks.