What happens when you’re a dad who’s given birth to your son?
Trevor MacDonald fits into a unique category: He’s a transgendered male who has had the experience of breastfeeding his son.
Trevor recently opened up to The Guardian about his unlikely experience as a dad.
I’ve felt pressured to nurse in bathrooms because of the supposed lewdness of feeding a baby from my body. I’m also told that my body and gender don’t fit into the neatly divided men’s and women’s restrooms of western society. People like me are told to keep out.”
But breastfeeding as a man brought on a lot more complications that just which bathroom was appropriate to breastfeed your baby.
“I was worried that breastfeeding might feel gendered to me – I thought, am I going to be able to do that, or am I going to experience a lot of gender dysphoria?”
Trevor’s story is less unusual as it may appear, however. In 2008, Thomas Beatie was given the title of “the first pregnant man.” Thomas was, of course, not truly the first, but rather the first to catch the media’s attention.
But while Trevor’s two pregnancies weren’t without their own complications, he’s glad he can bring his story to light.
“When someone who has only seen that narrative hears about a trans person becoming pregnant, they think, well that doesn’t make any sense. If it’s the wrong body, why are you doing this with your body? But it’s so much more nuanced than that.”