A little more than a year ago, 28-year-old DJ Zeke Thomas was raped in his apartment by a man he met on dating app Grindr. Now, he’s telling his story.
Speaking with NY Magazine, Thomas says the date started out like any other. The two met on the gay dating app Grindr.
“We had chatted on Grindr, and I had invited him to come by my studio since he was a singer. Nothing against Grindr. I’ve met great people on Grindr, I’ve had sex with great people on Grindr. I can’t blame an app. But you don’t know shit about people you meet on it.” In any case, they’d not hooked up right away. “He seemed like a great guy. We hung out at the recording studio. And then a couple of days later he said, let’s go to Boys Town for a drink.”
It wasn’t long before he realized he had been drugged.
“All I remember is … getting in the cab. I know that I got drugged. I knew probably the moment that it happened because something didn’t taste right. But I didn’t think about it. I just didn’t think about it.”
The next morning, he woke up “destroyed” and bleeding.
“I’m just like — terrified. I can’t move. I didn’t move from my apartment for two days. I didn’t move. I didn’t talk to anybody. I froze.”
As for why he’s coming forward now, Thomas says he feels a responsibility since so often, gay men just don’t talk about this.
According to the CDC, over 19.5 million men in the U.S. are victim to sexual violence over the course of their lives.
Now, Zeke Thomas is an ambassador for National Sexual Violence Resource Center and is “encouraging more victims to come forward.” He recently appeared on Good Morning America to share his story.
April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. If you or anyone you know has been sexually assaulted, head to the NSVRC’s website for help.