Ashley Graham just wrote an essay on body shaming that is leaving us reeling from her awesomeness.
Ashley Graham just wrote an essay on body shaming that is leaving us reeling from her awesomeness. Not only did she challenge everyone to look at their own body confidence issues, but she told any internet trolls out there that she was done being controlled by them.
The model started off her Lenny Letter like this:
“Raise your hand if you go through a tough selfie-editing process before picking the perfect photo to post on Instagram. Most people wouldn’t put up a picture they felt made them feel less than beautiful. Having been a model for sixteen years, I know my angles, just like we all know our favorite filters and lighting and our good sides. I pick the photos I like best.”
She then continued to address her own issues to maintain body positivity with so much negativity out there. She discussed a picture she posted to Instagram last week showing a flattering angle of her wearing a tight white pencil skirt and a cropped leather jacket, and the comments that followed.
“According to the comments, some people were upset because I appeared to be slimmer. (Knowing my angles is one thing, but I must be a magician to make people think I went from a size 14 to a size 6 in a week!) The reality is I haven’t lost a pound this year.
To some I’m too curvy. To others I’m too tall, too busty, too loud, and, now, too small — too much, but at the same time not enough. When I post a photo from a “good angle,” I receive criticism for looking smaller and selling out. When I post photos showing my cellulite, stretch marks, and rolls, I’m accused of promoting obesity. The cycle of body-shaming needs to end. I’m over it.”
She explained that she was sick and tired of people thinking that her size is all she is. That her whole existence is based upon her figure and nothing more.
And all we can say is yes. Yes, it’s time for people to stop using other people’s measurements to base all their judgements on. It’s time that we realize all women are just human, even celebrities, and it’s not our right to comment on their bodies. Whatever happened to the old adage “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all”?
The internet is not an excuse. Because you can hide you identity and your face doesn’t give you a reason to say what you want on another’s appearance without thinking of the consequence.
Ashley ended her essay in the most perfect way, and we think we’ll take a page out of her book:
“My body is MY body. I’ll call the shots.”
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Lena Finkel is the Editor and Founder of Femestella. Prior to starting Femestella, she worked at People, InStyle, and Tiger Beat. Her favorite Housewife is Bethenny Frankel (by far!), but when she’s not watching RHONY, you can probably find her hanging with her kitty Tom or tweeting at Sen. Chuck Schumer.