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Bringing sex toys into the bedroom is finally becoming the new normal for many people — as it should be.

Almost every woman needs external clitoral stimulation in order to experience an orgasm. Sex toys are the conduit for this necessary sexual contact, and vibrators are designed to help you reach orgasm faster.

Maybe you’ve tried using a vibrator a few times before, or maybe this is your first time. Either way, if you’re not used to it, learning how to use your new vibrator and having a good time can be a feat.

Using a new vibrator to bring yourself to orgasm is also a topic worth exploring and learning about, which can make your body and mind pleasurable. I like to think of learning how to use sex toys like riding a roller coaster: it might feel a little scary at first, but once you figure it out, naturally, you’ll be swimming like a fish in water!

Get In the Mood First

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First things first: whether you are masturbating or having sex with your partner, setting your emotions before sex is essential, especially for women. You can clean up your room first — a comfortable and clean environment will make people enter the mood faster. Then you can try a hot bath, massage your body with oil or lotion, dim the lights, or light candles and watch porn. These tips can quickly turn you on.

Once you are excited about the next step, turn on the vibrator. Make sure that you have entered the atmosphere so that no stiff muscles will be strained. But don’t rush towards your vagina yet. Continue to pleasure yourself by using the vibrator on other body parts, such as your breasts or ears.

You can adjust different vibration modes or fix a certain vibration mode unchanged. If you’re overwhelmed at first, that’s okay. You may need to use it a few times before you can master it.

Find the Right Point

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Since most people need to stimulate the clitoris directly to achieve orgasm, you may want to focus most of your attention on using the vibrator externally. Still, you can also try using it internally (if your vibrator can do that). Some people like the penetrating in and out movement.

If your toy is specifically designed to stimulate the G-spot, you can try rubbing the vaginal wall with the head of the toy. Your G-spot is on the side of the vagina under your abdomen. It feels terrific to put pressure there because you are indirectly stimulating the inner fibers of the clitoris.

If possible, choose a multifunctional vibrator for dual stimulation, with one end having a sucking function that stimulates the clitoris and the other end penetrating deep into the vagina to stimulate the g-spot. You can get a variety of different experiences from one vibrator.

Everyone’s body is different. Using a multi-functional product allows you to explore as many different areas of the body as possible to understand your body better. So keep having fun and you will soon become a professional.

And in case you’re wondering, no, you won’t damage your nerve endings no matter how strong the vibrations you use. That said, it is possible to temporarily over-stimulate yourself, which may mean you lose some sensation for a short period. But don’t worry about any lasting damage.

Don’t Be Afraid to Try

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Try different techniques with your sex toys, especially if you’re using a new vibrator.

And don’t be afraid to try different things! Try different vibration patterns, apply more or less pressure where it feels good, try rubbing or grinding, and experiment with different positions. You can also practice (deliberately delaying your orgasm) techniques to see if this makes it more enjoyable for you. If you want to try a different kind of vibrator, you can check out the website called sohimi, a website dedicated to sex toys.

You can learn a little more about yourself every time you get intimate with yourself, you can feel good, and you can take time for yourself to relax and feel good about your self-care.

Having an orgasm doesn’t mean you had a great experience, and not having an orgasm doesn’t mean you had a bad one. It’s okay if you don’t have an orgasm the first time. It may take some time and trying different things over time until you figure out what turns you on, and you may also learn new things and try different approaches as you get older and your body and preferences change.

Now that you’ve finished this ultimate guide on vibrators, you may be tempted to take it out and explore the hidden depths of your sexuality. Be safe, listen to your body, and ride the wave!

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