Laverne Cox Refuses to Glam Up for Dates: ‘It’s Not About Trying to Make Them Like Me’

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The best word to describe Laverne Cox is iconic. Not only is she an outstanding actress, but she also always speaks her truth in a powerful way. And in a new interview, Cox took beauty standards head on, and made us rethink everything.

When speaking on Access Hollywood, Laverne discussed her unique approach when it comes to dating and appearance. She said,

“My whole dating thing is, I show up as Laverne. I don’t glam up. I give maybe a little powder for shine, and I’m like, this is it. Because the first few dates, you don’t know if they’re going to last or not. I’m going to put the effort in once you’ve proven that you deserve all of this.”

She added,

“It’s not about trying to make them like me. I used to try and make them like me. Now, do I like you? Do we have anything in common? Are you into the real, authentic Laverne, stripped way down?”

I totally love this attitude.

Don’t get be wrong, I love getting dolled up for nights out. No shame in my game. And if you like that too, have at it! But Laverne’s words are a good reminder to put yourself first and see if the date is worth it. Don’t feel obligated to glam up just to impress them. You are beautiful as is, and your personality and identity will shine through.

Allie Bush
Allie Bush is a Contributing Writer at Femestella. She is interested in creating and sharing entertaining and engaging content, in whatever form it may take. She is a proud TV junkie and in her spare time can be found watching late night talk shows, talking about Chrissy Teigen or Amy Poehler, or eating off of other people's plates.