'RHOBH': Crystal Kung Minkoff Wasn't Prepared For All Your Racist Hate

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As the first Asian housewife to appear on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Crystal Kung Minkoff was ready to represent. But she was completely unprepared for the barrage of hate that would soon come her way.

Speaking with the L.A. Times, Crystal said her initial plan was to go in and represent the AAIP community by just being herself and showing viewers her world. She said,

“For me, the representation was, I’m going to come into this sort of very caucasian world that I live in in my real life, and then the audience will get to see how easily integrated someone of color is in this world.”

But things quickly went sideways when she started receiving horrific, racist messages in her DMs, for no other reason than her race. She recalled,

“Every single day, I get the word ‘chink’ in my DMs, or ‘kike.’ Every day.”

She continued,

“It was totally not expected because I’ve always been so included. I grew up [in L.A.] and maybe it’s just super diverse or I was just so blind to it. I never felt like a true outsider. I never experienced that until the show.”

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The constant hate has, of course, taken a toll on her and she would be lying if she said she hadn’t considered quitting.

“Half of me is sometimes: I just want to be done, stay in my room and go back to my normal life and pretend like nothing ever happened. And the other side is like: I need to do it for that girl in Minnesota who just messaged me. If it’s that one girl, like, I need to do something for her.”

This is, sadly, not the first time that Crystal has revealed the racism she’s had to face. Last year, she shared a disgusting DM she received that said,

“You’re the epitome of a moronic chink c*nt. PLEASE do the world a favor and kill yourself, you stupid worthless nasty ass snatch napkin.”

It doesn’t get much more vile than that.

Despite the ongoing hate, Bravo has stayed silent. They have not condemned the racism that so-called “fans” have shown nor have they publicly stood behind Crystal.

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As for whether Crystal would be willing to return to RHOBH and continue dealing with all the racism, she’s not so sure.

She explained,

“For me, it’s quite scary. I sometimes just feel like I live my life very positively and I have a really good life and this really, like, brings a lot of negativity sometimes, and even though my kids don’t see it, I feel the energy being thrown at them.”

She continued,

“And I’m like: Why am I doing it? Like, what is this for? And so I grapple with that a lot.”

It’s a terrible shame that all of this hate would possibly stop her from returning for a sophomore season because she truly has been a great addition to the show. She hasn’t been afraid to stand up for herself nor is she above apologizing and making amends. What more could we ask of her?


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