The Bachelorette is wasting no time getting deep this season.
In Tashia Adams’ first full episode, she went on a one-on-one date with Brendan and the two got serious.
It started with Brendan revealing his divorce and then with Tayshia reciprocating (Tayshia married her college boyfriend Josh Bourelle and divorced after six years).
But it’s what came next that really mattered: the two discussed whether or not they each wanted to have kids as well as how many children they would want.
Despite this being a make-or-break kind of thing for many couples, the topic often doesn’t come up until a couple is deep into the relationship. It can be heartbreaking when someone you’ve fallen in love with doesn’t share the same vision for the future and it often leads to a break-up.
So, why don’t people looking for “the one” talk about this earlier? If you know something is a dealbreaker for you, why wouldn’t you bring it up right away?
Every couple — or potential couple — should bring this up on the very first date, especially if you’re looking for a long-term or lifelong partner.
It may seem awkward to discuss such serious topics right off the bat considering that people usually stick to small talk on first dates. And if you’re looking for a fling or just some fun, then there’s certainly no point in even going there.
But if you’re dating with the purpose of finding a partner, then there’s no point in wasting time. Avoiding the topic can only lead to heartbreak later when you’re way more invested.
So props to Tayshia and Brendan for getting in there right away! It’s time for other daters to follow suit.